Rape Awareness Ruining College Men's Sex Lives

Rape Awareness Ruining College Men’s Sex Lives

Rape Awareness Ruining College Men’s Sex Lives

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Salon.com discusses the rape awareness movement and its effects on college men. These men say they are afraid to make moves on women because of fear of being accused of rape or sexual assault. The article states, “[College men] basically view their female peers as rape bombs just waiting to explode and ruin their lives.” One gentlemen states, “I haven’t learned anything about consent since I was a freshman in a health class. [Education has] to give you a better understanding of what’s right and what’s wrong.” To some, what constitutes rape may seem obvious, but is seems for students there are some blurred lines when it comes to consent.

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This post may seem very insulting to rape victims, and women in general, by focusing on the psychological effects of men instead of women, but I think the article ultimately is shedding light on how college students are not be educated about healthy communication and healthy relationships. If young men feel that if they call a women and ask her on a date, he’s setting himself up to be accused of rape, then this exposes how young people are struggling with discerning between what is right and wrong and knowing how to express healthy communication with their peers.

 

What do you think?

 

 

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4 thoughts on “Rape Awareness Ruining College Men’s Sex Lives

  1. Rick says:

    We had the same issues when I went to college in the 1980’s, although there was less of the lynch mob culture back then. I do wonder how much of this is about sex per se and how much is about the confusion in gender roles and the politics surrounding it. To this day if I open the door for a woman and she gives me grief about it I want to know why at the least. I’m convinced that attitude has kept me out of trouble.

  2. Kevin says:

    Maybe we should look at the countries with the lowest occurrences of sexual assaults and learn from their cultures of sex. Cool blog!

  3. Tim Woodman says:

    Courageous to point this out to people. It speaks to the persistent underlying theme in our culture that ‘sex is bad’ and reinforces to college kids that they can only have sex when drunk and that they WILL regret it later. Perhaps a more sex-positive approach would be better? Step 1 is under way, stop blaming/shaming victims. Good. Step 2? Teach men to behave. Okay that’s good too, but what would be better? Teach men and women what sex is, how it works, how to approach it like mature grown ups, without judgment. Maybe that way people can make good, informed decisions and enjoy their sexuality safely and without shame? Just a thought…

    • Chanel Preston says:

      A very good thought. The approach we take towards issues like this is to figure out who to blame, and this does no good when addressing this problem. We need to start thinking more comprehensively about why this keeps happening. I don’t mean not holding perpetrators accountable but figuring out a more effective way to reduce sexual assault and change the mind set behind the rape culture.

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