100 Year Old Sex Therapist Talks Casual Sex

100 Year Old Sex Therapist Talks Casual Sex

100 Year Old Sex Therapist Talks Casual Sex

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I thought this was interesting…

Shirley Zussman is an actively practicing, 100 year old sex therapist in Manhattan. According to The Jewish Daily Forward, Shirley and her husband, Leon, actually took William Masters and Virginia Johnson under their wing when the couple expanded their practice to New York. Masters and Johnson are the sex research duo the hit show “Masters of Sex” is based off of. In the post, they quote her talking about casual sex. Here is what she said:

“I think there’s a big change in the way we view casual sex. In the 60s it wasn’t just casual—it was frantic. It was something you expected to happen to you, you wanted it to happen, it was sort of a mad pursuit of sexual pleasure. But I think over time the disadvantages of that kind of behavior began to become apparent. There was the emotional crash– the intimacy was not there in the way that people need and want. There was a concern about sexual diseases, and then eventually AIDS made a major impact on calming that excitement.”

I think what was expected of casual sex – frantic sex– was something that didn’t deliver. Because in the long run, sexual pleasure is just one part of what men and women want from each other. They want intimacy, they want closeness, they want understanding, they want fun, and they want someone who really cares about them beyond just going to bed with them.”

I think hooking up includes some aspect of the kind of sex we were just talking about, but in a very much modified, and limited way. It’s not as frantic.”

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I’m curious to see what other people’s opinions are on what Shirley Zussman said or opinions on casual sex.

What do you think?

Photo courtesy of www.news.com/au

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3 thoughts on “100 Year Old Sex Therapist Talks Casual Sex

  1. buddhaislaughing says:

    Sex is really anticlimactic…”sex’ really takes place in the head…uh, the one glued onto your shoulders…the few minutes of feverish groping and grinding are over almost before it begins, the man is satiated and rolls over like a lion on the veldt, now ready for many hours of contented slumber. The excitement, mystery, and fantasy take place in the illusion of the mind…all the ritualizing prior to the act are what’s most fun…the eye-contact, the delight in the hot stare of the other…the sly smile, the knowing wink, all this leading up to the perfunctory act itself…men who are admitted “satyrs” all agree, the pleasure is in the hunt, not the conquest.

  2. Dave says:

    I agree that the frantic aspect of casual sex that Zussman talks about could be attributed to the perception that a sexual revolution was occurring during the 60’s? The twofold effect of the allure of something new, as well as the perception that everyone else is getting in on this free love, may have been contributing factors to the frenetic aspect of casual sex that she talks about. I would suggest that casual sex these days is less frantic because as a society we have had time to let the idea of casual sex become part of the Zeitgeist.

    In the video that accompanies the original article Zussman cites the iphone and modern technology as a detrimental factor regarding connecting with others. While this may be true in a physical sense I would argue that because of technology we have a myriad of new ways to connect emotionally with others. Blogs such as this one, are just one of a plethora of ways to get your opinion/feelings out there and potentially connect with people on a purely intellectual level. I guess what it boils down to is the ability of people to compartmentalise. We all have sexual and emotional needs, if both are met but in different activities should it really matter?

    Personally I’ve found casual sex to be no less rewarding than sex in a longer term relationship. It may be a different kind of satisfaction that is derived but I’d be hard pressed to say that one kind of satisfaction was greater then the other. In my experience the two types of sex fulfil different aspects of my sexual desires. More often than not the casual sex was more animalistic and spontaneous while the longer term relationship sex was more emotionally fulfilling. That is not to say that an emotional connection can never exist in casual sex or that sex in a long term relationship cannot be spontaneous.

    • Chanel Preston says:

      Yes, casual sex and sex in a committed relationship can fulfill different needs. I think the difference between now and the 60’s is more widely accepted belief that sex is not a one dimensional experience. The 60’s gave impetus to this idea, but now we accept it more as such. This means we are more open to experiencing sex in all different ways, not just as a marital duty.

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